Isnin, Oktober 05, 2009

Self esteem ?



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Dipetik daripada Better Health Channel.






Self esteem


Self-esteem is your opinion of yourself. People with healthy self-esteem like themselves and value their achievements. While everyone lacks confidence occasionally, people with low self-esteem feel unhappy or unsatisfied with themselves most of the time.

This can be remedied but it takes attention and daily practise to boost self-esteem. See your doctor for information, advice and referral if you’re having trouble improving your self-esteem or if low self-esteem is causing problems such as depression.


Characteristics of low self-esteem Typically, a person with low self-esteem:

*Is extremely critical of themselves

* Down plays or ignores their positive qualities

*Judges themselves to be inferior to their peers

* Uses negative words to describe themselves such as stupid, fat, ugly or unlovable

* Has discussions with themselves (this is called ‘self talk’) that are always negative, critical and self blaming

* Assumes that luck plays a large role in all their achievements and doesn’t take the credit for them

* Blames themselves when things go wrong instead of taking into account other things over which they have no control such as the actions of other people or economic forces

* Doesn’t believe a person who compliments them.





Low self-esteem and quality of life A low self-esteem can reduce the quality of a person’s life in many different ways, including:

* Negative feelings – the constant self-criticism can lead to persistent feelings of sadness, depression, anxiety, anger, shame or guilt.

* Relationship problems – for example they may tolerate all sorts of unreasonable behaviour from partners because they believe they must earn love and friendship, cannot be loved or are not loveable. Alternatively, a person with low self-esteem may feel angry and bully other people.

* Fear of trying – the person may doubt their abilities or worth and avoid challenges.

* Perfectionism – a person may push themselves and become an over-achiever to ‘atone’ for what they see as their inferiority.

* Fear of judgement – they may avoid activities that involve other people, like sports or social events, because they are afraid they will be negatively judged. The person feels self-conscious and stressed around others and constantly looks for ‘signs’ that people don’t like them.

* Low resilience – a person with low self-esteem finds it hard to cope with a challenging life event because they already believe themselves to be ‘hopeless’.

* Lack of self-care – the person may care so little that they neglect or abuse themselves: for example, drink too much alcohol.

* Self-harming behaviours – low self-esteem puts the person at increased risk of self-harm: for example, eating disorder, drug abuse or suicide.






Causes Some of the many causes of low self-esteem may include:

* Unhappy childhood where parents (or other significant people such as teachers) were extremely critical

* Poor academic performance in school resulting in a lack of confidence

* Ongoing stressful life event such as relationship breakdown or financial trouble

* Poor treatment from a partner, parent or carer: for example, being in an abusive relationship

* Ongoing medical problem such as chronic pain, serious illness or physical disability

* Mental illness such as an anxiety disorder or depression.



Seek help for underlying problems Chronic problems can be demoralising and lead to self-esteem issues. Seek professional advice for problems such as relationship breakdown, anxiety disorder or financial worries.





Self-esteem building Self-esteem is strongly related to how you view and react to the things that happen in your life. Suggestions include:

* Talk to yourself positively – treat yourself as you would your best friend. Be supportive, kind and understanding. Don’t be hard on yourself when you make a mistake.

* Challenge negative ‘self-talk’ – every time you criticise yourself, stop and look for objective evidence that the criticism is true. (If you feel you can’t be objective, then ask a trusted friend for their opinion.) You’ll realise that most of your negative self-talk is unfounded.

* Don’t compare yourself to others – recognise that everyone is different and that every human life has value in it’s own right. Make an effort to accept yourself, warts and all.

* Acknowledge the positive – for example, don’t brush off compliments, dismiss your achievements as ‘dumb luck’ or ignore your positive traits.

* Appreciate your special qualities – remind yourself of your good points every day. Write a list and refer to it often. (If you feel you can’t think of anything good about yourself, ask a trusted friend to help you write the list.)

* Forget the past – concentrate on living in the here-and-now rather than reliving old hurts and disappointments.

* Tell yourself a positive message everyday – buy a set of ‘inspirational cards’ and start each day reading out a new card and carrying the card’s message with you all day.

* Stop worrying – ‘worry’ is simply fretting about the future. Accept that you can’t see or change the future and try to keep your thoughts in the here-and-now.

* Have fun – schedule enjoyable events and activities into every week.

* Be assertive – communicate your needs, wants, feelings, beliefs and opinions to others in a direct and honest manner.

* Practise the above suggestions every day – it takes effort and vigilance to replace unhelpful thoughts and behaviours with healthier versions. Give yourself time to establish the new habits. Keep a diary or journal to chart your progress.




3 ulasan:

~HuSnA ZuBiR~ berkata...

huh..low self esteem ke ko??

cian....bgun!!!ayuh....mnuju puncak kgmilgn..!! :)

btw, aku da post smtg..ada diselit nma ko..huhu..sila la,mengomen

THALHAH berkata...

aku sedang mengalami zaman sebelum renaissance. apa ubatnya?

Syukri Sapuan berkata...

husna: terima kasih husna! =)

thalhah: menari-nari riang cm biasa la bro.haha~

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